Hi there! Thanks for reading this post. To start off, my prefered pronouns are she/her, and when you come in for an initial consultation, I’ll ask you for yours. However you identify, I want to help you to live more fully, be truer to yourself, and to explore experiences and feelings about gender in a genuine way. My focus is around helping every client find more authentic, affirming, and joyful relationships with themselves and others.
The road toward oneself is fraught with insecurity and pain. Questions like “who am I?” and “where do I fit in?” and “what do I have to offer?” are questions healthy people continue to return to again and again in the process of becoming themselves. If you’re in the process of exploring the Gender Pokey, you more than know that the road toward selfhood requires additional energy, thoughtfulness, tolerance for ambiguity, and perseverance. Additionally, concerns about physical safety, about the strength of relationships and one’s place in a community, as well as concerns about the “best” way to actualize oneself can make the process of transitioning both awfully testing and gorgeously freeing.
From the decision to tell just one person about what’s going on, to thinking about trying hormones… From choosing whether to play by society’s “rules” regarding your new gender, to exacting the kind of privacy you want… From existential considerations around passing, to thinking about whether to share your experience… Transitioning is a process of noticing, experiencing, learning, questioning, discovering, planning, feeling, and growing.
And gender, of course, is likely not the most crucial or stressful part of your life right now. There’s always so much more going on!
Regardless of your reasons for pursuing therapy, it can be helpful to share your experiences with a nonjudgmental professional willing to walk beside you as you figure out who you are and what you want.
I am familiar with the WPATH’s Standards of Care and am appreciative of the current SOC’s move away from using therapists as “gate-keepers.” I have co-authored letters of recommendation for medical gender confirmation, and am able to provide letters and to sign the DMV’s new change of gender designation form. I also know that many people aren’t seeking physical changes as a part of their journey. I am open to your unique expression of self and gender, and I welcome all aspects of your experience. Hello!